EIGHT THOUGHT PROVOKING DOWN-TO-EARTH PRACTICAL LAWS THAT YOU MIGHT WANT TO CONSIDER BASING YOUR MARRIAGE CHOICES UPON

• YOU CANNOT MAKE CHANGES. You cannot make changes in yourself or in your relationship. You can make choices for yourself and in your relationship. You can flow with and accept the changes that come. It is certain in life that changes will come because everything is always always changing. Nothing stays the same except change itself.
  
  
• YOU CAN HANDLE WHAT YOU ARE GIVEN. You are never given more than you can handle however challenging something is. Somehow someway you have the ability to do it. You can do it. It’s been set up for you to do it. Nothing is every intended to penalize, punish or to capsize you. The predominant force and fabric of the world is on your team, for you, not against you.
  
  
• WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU GET. Nothing in itself is intrinsically fulfilling. What anything is for us at any given point in time is what we have put on it, in it or to it. What we see is what it is. Everthing about your marriage or your life has 100% to do with how you see it. Want it to be different? See it differently. Want someone different, like your parent? See her/him differently.
  
  
• THINKING IS OFTEN MISLEADING. Which is to say that thinking is limited and not the whole picture. Thoughts are like definitions. They are definitions. Thoughts define things. They are not expansive by nature. They are confine meaning to words. Because of this, such thoughts as about what is going on in your relationship or with your partner, can mislead you. Here's some advice? Don't count on your thoughts as the gospel of anything. Here's a good test: Do you reach the same conclusion when you check your thoughts against reality?
  
  
• TRUTH IS RELATIVE NOT ABSOLUTE. What was true yesterday may not be true today. What is not true now may be true in a minute from now. What is true for one person may not be true for another person. What is true for you may not be true for your partner. What you found yesterday in a particular place may not be found in the same place today. A smart rule in life: Don't attach yourself to anything however good or predictable-appearing it may be.
  
  
• LOVE NOT SHOWN EQUALS NOTHING MUCH SHOWN AT ALL. Showing your love is everything in marriage. Mind readers we are not. Showing your love makes your love accessible, viewable, reachable, noticeable, touchable. It doesn’t matter what you did or tried to do in going out of your way to show your love; it matters that you went out of your way to show your love.
  
  
• E-MOTIONS ARE ENERGY IN MOTION. Emotions have to do with movement. The nature of an emotion is that it needs to move to be what it is. Emotions are not thinking, analysis or the pragmatic approach in life. When someone is emotional, don't count on getting anywhere by analyzing or talking to her/him about what's going on. In fact, you might get a reaction that you didn't intend to get. Rather, create encouragement, loving support and ample space for your partner (or yourself) to experience the emotion so it can move freely. Think about these things: If something needs to move and it can't, can you imagine how this affects things? One's health? And, when something that has needed to move was prevented from doing so for a long time,but now is allowed to, what an affect that has on things. On health.
  
  
• THIS IS ALL ABOUT GOOD. Relationships, marriage and life are about good. How much more simple and to the point could such a statement be? Suggestion: If life doesn't feel good for you right now, re-read and contemplate, as deeply as you can, the above laws. Do you agree with them? If so, don't hesitate to let the law determine your future choices.
  
  
  
  
  

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