Having a Child
QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF BEFORE HAVING A CHILD
am I ready to give give give give give give to another human
being without getting anything back in return?
I ready to work together with my spouse in co-parenting? Realistically
speaking, would I be willing to put aside ego and self-righteousness
in favor of a unified parenting team for our child? Can I be
consistent in doing this?
I willing to accept who my son or daughter is even if she/he
is really different than me and different than I had expected
or wanted in a child?
I mature enough right now to be able to maintain basic loving
to a child when I feel stressed, exhausted, hurt, down or when
I dont like him/her or am upset with him/her or rejected
be be able to provide the basics to this child?
I been taking good care of the child inside of me--my inner-child?
Do I understand that there is a relationship between how I take
care of my inner- child and how I would take care of an outer
I willing to do whatever it takes to learn and grow in any of
the above areas for the sake of being the kind of parent my
child would need me to be? Am I willing to read a books for
ideas about parenting? If it would be useful, am I willing to
see a therapist a few times for assistance in healing the relationship
with my parents? Or take a class about parenting and talk to
other parents about their experience?
I realize the responsibility involved, and the honor it is,
to be given a child to take care of, and to prepare, for his/her
life? That being a parent is hands down the single greatest
job opportunity in the whole world? That the future of the planet
is affected by the choices that each and every parent makes?
I realize that I don't have to know everything about, and be
perfect in, being a parent? That I only have to have the willingness
to be the best parent I can be--and be a continual student of
parenting? Do I realize that the single most effective tool
of parenting is loving? That I am a loving soul? And that to
the extent I let my loving show to my child, his/her life will
blossom just perfectly? That parenting from this approach is
really not hard at all? That is is absolutely wonderful? The