ABSTAINING FROM BEING RIGHT.
You're 'right' of course, but you choose to abstain from thinking this
because your relationship is not about right or wrong but about learning
and growing together in a nurturing caring environment. You'd rather be
known as loving than 'right'. You'd rather have your marriage work than
FROM SELF-RIGHTEOUS THOUGHTS LIKE:
"Why should ''I' have to deal with this crap?" or, "I
need this like a hole in the head" or, "What's wrong with
this person?". You just don't go there.
when the going
gets rough. When something got to you and your button has been pushed,
you abstain from old pattern of 'blowin this joint' for something 'better'.
It may very well be good for you two to have some space apart but it
must be defined so that you each know what to expect and when you will
see each other again. No one deserves the feeling of their beloved walking
out on them and not telling them when they will come back. Yuk.
FROM MAKING EXCUSES
for who you
are or what you did. You do not have to defend yourself. You are you.
FROM JUDGING YOURSELF
as less (you're
not). Shows up in word, feelings or inner-pictures like, "I'm not
as good as.....", "I'm not good", "I 'm a failure;
"I can't", "I'm bad", I'm stupid", "I'm
that could be important to your partner because you are afraid to hurt
them or fear that they won't be able to deal with it.
Do you know
an abstention that says 'I Love You' that we left out? We'd love to
add it. Email us