In This Drawer: About You - You Two Together - Tools For Your Wedding - Challenge Question - For Your Fridge
THE SKY'S THE LIMIT FOR A MARRIAGE.
The Creating Marriage-drawer is about taking care of your marriage marriage--the relationship part of your marriage. What it's really about, eh?
This drawer is here to remind you that you can think and do things that will create marriage longevity. That it is realistic for a couple to have general day-to-day happiness together, i.e., a dynamic, sweet, dear friendship that nurtures and empowers each of you daily (aka a family); where you will look forward to talking together, being together and holding each other again (aka home).
Your marriage can be inspiring for greater health, abundance, peace, joy, fun (lots of fun), and, should you have children, children that are truly free, confident about unknowns, responsible and loving 'good' people. All this good being possible for a couple is what 'getting married' and wedding day is about to us and what underlies everything at this site.
And so, you are invited to take out a few moments out, right now, to gather up and take in a new idea or two. Reflect about yourselves together. Check in. Here are a few questions to stimulate this reflection and check-in:
What feeling is present for you right now about your relationship?
How has your communication been lately?
How are you doing with the issues and differences in your relationship that all relationships have?
How would you rate yourself as a listener?
As being willing to speak what's present in your heart or on your mind?
Do you think that lately you've been having (enough) quality time together?
Now, think of yourself as a strategist.
Reflect on what would make your relationship even stronger. What are some areas that could be improved? What could you improve about yourself and what you offer the relationship? What is one thing you are learning big time in this relationship? How's that going for you? Do any of the following subjects look interesting to you?
TOOLS FOR YOU
TOOLS FOR THE ENGAGED YOU
TOOLS FOR YOUR WEDDING- WOULD YOU LIKE TO KNOW...
TOOLS FOR HOW YOU COMMUNICATE
- Do you need-need a typical marriage class that goes over all the issues that could come up in marriage? Well there's good and value in everything, but you maybe you don't need-need it.
- Could a really good class on communication skills--based on communicating your needs and feelings and how to hear your partner's needs and feelings--be beneficial to you?
- Let me know if you're interested in this.
ON BEING A LEARNER
We profoundly believe that being successful in the world of marriage (or any relationship for that matter) is directly proportional to the degree a person is a 'self-learner', i.e., willing to look for the personal learning or lesson in each situation and in general just being willing to widen, expand and grow with each situation and experience. That each situation and experience in life is a brilliantly designed teaching tool just for us. That each person in our movie is a teacher and wayshower for us in some way. It like we have asked to learn something or to grow in a certain area and the Great Giver of Things says, "Okay, I can see what you need to learn. Here is the perfect person and the perfect scenario for you to see what you need to see about yourself in order to get what you asked for."
ON LOVE AND LOVING.
Love is who we are, what's in us. Loving is when we let it shine; when we show it; when we walk across the bridge to give it to someone. Other facts about loving? You each have been factory equipped to show it (aka being in your heart). And you each have it in amazing abundance. The simple truth: there is nothing that is worth more anywhere in the universe than this Loving.
For all of the above reasons, we can say, with total confidence, that the sky is the limit for marriage, for your marriage. No matter what you could encounter on your marriage path, this sky's-the-limit idea will always be the case i.e., there will be nothing that you can't overcome if you put your heart into it. Would you like to know some words you could say to yourself that would keep you on track with this?
WHAT'S YOUR 1ST MEETING STORY?
Isn't it amazing (it is to me) about how on a planet of six billion two people were able to find each other? Read First Meeting Stories that readers have sent in and maybe you'll give us a gift of being able to read about how you two met. I'd love to hear it.
A mixture of creating marriage-related petals and spices.
FOR THE FRIDGE DOOR
Sayings and reminders to keep you on track in the kitchen.
If the Sky really is the limit for your marriage, what's the first thought that comes to your mind that would take you further with this idea?
A FAVORITE QUOTE
"So, as you plan the logistics of the wedding, keep in mind the logistics (guidelines) that really work:
(a) Take care of yourself so that you can help take care of others;
(b) Don't hurt yourself and don't hurt others and,
(c) Use everything for your (growth and learning).
If you keep these in mind, they will point you in the right direction and will keep you clearer." - John Morton