First, let me say what I'm not. I am not an expert or someone who knows what is right or wrong for someone else. I am not a therapist and I am not perfect (I fall short of ideals all the time and have to pick myself up like everyone else).
Who I am is a person that has put time and energy into learning from his experiences in the RSHK (Relationship School of Hard Knocks). When I have fallen in the past, I swiftly sought to learn the lessons that I believed the experience came along to teach me. I used tools: I journaled; I talked; I released the feelings I was feeling; and most of all, I was honest to myself about what my part was and what I needed to work on in order for it not to repeat again.
My most important credentials then, are my being the person I am at this point, including my passion to use my skills to be of service to married couples in any way I can. Just like "friends of the court" that we have in our judicial system, I feel that I am a "friend of marriage.".
Professionally, I publish one of the oldest marriage sites on the internet (this site), have a master's degree in spiritual science, a doctorate in law, have taken dozens of relationship seminars and retreats in the past 23 years, am in my ninth year as a fulltime--very, I might add-- non-denominational wedding officiant in one of the largest wedding markets in the country, publish the #1 site in the country that matches engaged and married couples with ceremony officiants, and have counseled many hundreds of couples, privately, as a facilitator of engaged couples workshops and as a writer and marriage coach for The Marriage Toolbox.
In a sentence, I can say, that the one thing I know for sure, is that the #1 ingredient for a lasting and magical marriage relationship, or any relationship for that matter, lies in how well the two people use the tools of communication together.
THESE are the reasons I have published this site, and in my humble opinion, was qualified to do so.